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When my best (and only) friends left me the spring of 2007 I sort of had to do some serious work on my self-esteem because how the hell else was I going to survive basically completely on my own? And if you all know me, you ought to know that by now I have a lot where that comes from.

I am an amazing fucker.

I don't know if maybe I talk about it as if it's some easy thing when I give advice on how to view things and yourself to feel better about it, but I do know that it's really not. And I had the great luck of having a mother and family who have always been supportive and encouraged me to feel good about myself and be the best I can be while not being hard on myself about it etc etc, and a lot of people don't have that. I do know it's not easy, but I do know it can be done, and so I want to share a few pointers that I used, and still use, that I think are very important.

I don't claim to be an expert or anything, but I think that I have at least some decent knowledge of it, and I hope that it can be of at least some help for you.

And I don't know if you've heard them before; you might have. But I think they really do bear repeating, and punching into your head over and over again until you really start to believe them. I have no illusion that this is an easy thing either; it's not.

One and two and three and four )

And your well-being and happiness is worth fighting for. You are worth it.
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A lot of people seem to be going through rough times this start of the new year, in different ways. It sucks so much because I really want every single one of you to be happy, to not have to worry so much over different things, to not have to feel lost and confused, to not have to struggle with being down all the time. I wish so much I could just fix everything for you, make you all as happy as I am with my own life right now because it's amazing, but of course I can't magically make it so.

And the worst part is that I'm not even capable of helping all of you in a way I'd like to be able to. I can't be there for you in the way I would like; when I don't know what to say whenever you talk to me personally about things or do it on Plurk or wherever, I can't settle for skipping the words and going for a hug instead because we're in different parts of the world.

I like to think that I'm at least helping as much as possible by being there as much as I can, and letting you talk to me, and reading your concerns or at rare times listen to it on Skype and maybe offer at least some words of advice, and I have been told that it's appreciated. It can never be the same as having someone there to physically pull you up in the mornings and help you face the day while really staying at your side, however, and when I go through tough times I know I have that in my family, but not everyone even has that.

A lot of the time the only thing I can think of to say is that it'll be okay, and as true as that can be (and the very most of the time is) I remember myself that I've never really liked hearing that when down. Of course, this is probably an individual thing, but that is the reason I always try to think of something else to say. Sometimes this leaves me not saying anything, or just responding with some smiley, or giving a hug in text that I'm not even sure really means anything.

But I always try my best, and you're all very important to me and I hope all of you know that I'm here whenever you need me, definitely, to do whatever I can possibly think of. And if there is ever anything I can do, like talk to you in the wee hours of the morning or write you something or play something stupid, just tell me. Since I can't hug you or really be there, I'd like to do whatever I can.

I love you, and you're amazing people, and you're never a burden on me and you never have to apologise for dumping anything on me. I can carry this "burden" just fine, and I'm happy if I can help even a little.

So just keep going and being gorgeous people, okay? And life will take you wherever, but most likely it'll be something good, no matter how long it takes.



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